Wednesday, October 31, 2012


PURGATORY, EXCERPT FROM SPE SALVI
A BIBLICAL APPROACH
POPE BENEDICT XVI



Saint Paul, in his First Letter to the Corinthians, gives us an idea of the differing impact of God's judgement according to each person's particular circumstances. He does this using images which in some way try to express the invisible, without it being possible for us to conceptualize these images—simply because we can neither see into the world beyond death nor do we have any experience of it. Paul begins by saying that Christian life is built upon a common foundation: Jesus Christ. This foundation endures. If we have stood firm on this foundation and built our life upon it, we know that it cannot be taken away from us even in death. Then Paul continues: “Now if any one builds on the foundation with gold, silver, precious stones, wood, hay, straw—each man's work will become manifest; for the Day will disclose it, because it will be revealed with fire, and the fire will test what sort of work each one has done. If the work which any man has built on the foundation survives, he will receive a reward. If any man's work is burned up, he will suffer loss, though he himself will be saved, but only as through fire” (1 Cor 3:12-15). In this text, it is in any case evident that our salvation can take different forms, that some of what is built may be burned down, that in order to be saved we personally have to pass through “fire” so as to become fully open to receiving God and able to take our place at the table of the eternal marriage-feast.

47. Some recent theologians are of the opinion that the fire which both burns and saves is Christ himself, the Judge and Saviour. The encounter with him is the decisive act of judgement. Before his gaze all falsehood melts away. This encounter with him, as it burns us, transforms and frees us, allowing us to become truly ourselves. All that we build during our lives can prove to be mere straw, pure bluster, and it collapses. Yet in the pain of this encounter, when the impurity and sickness of our lives become evident to us, there lies salvation. His gaze, the touch of his heart heals us through an undeniably painful transformation “as through fire”. But it is a blessed pain, in which the holy power of his love sears through us like a flame, enabling us to become totally ourselves and thus totally of God. In this way the inter-relation between justice and grace also becomes clear: the way we live our lives is not immaterial, but our defilement does not stain us for ever if we have at least continued to reach out towards Christ, towards truth and towards love. Indeed, it has already been burned away through Christ's Passion. At the moment of judgement we experience and we absorb the overwhelming power of his love over all the evil in the world and in ourselves. The pain of love becomes our salvation and our joy. It is clear that we cannot calculate the “duration” of this transforming burning in terms of the chronological measurements of this world. The transforming “moment” of this encounter eludes earthly time-reckoning—it is the heart's time, it is the time of “passage” to communion with God in the Body of Christ[39]. The judgement of God is hope, both because it is justice and because it is grace. If it were merely grace, making all earthly things cease to matter, God would still owe us an answer to the question about justice—the crucial question that we ask of history and of God. If it were merely justice, in the end it could bring only fear to us all. The incarnation of God in Christ has so closely linked the two together—judgement and grace—that justice is firmly established: we all work out our salvation “with fear and trembling” (Phil 2:12). Nevertheless grace allows us all to hope, and to go trustfully to meet the Judge whom we know as our “advocate”, orparakletos (cf. 1 Jn 2:1).
48. A further point must be mentioned here, because it is important for the practice of Christian hope. Early Jewish thought includes the idea that one can help the deceased in their intermediate state through prayer (see for example 2 Macc 12:38-45; first century BC). The equivalent practice was readily adopted by Christians and is common to the Eastern and Western Church. The East does not recognize the purifying and expiatory suffering of souls in the afterlife, but it does acknowledge various levels of beatitude and of suffering in the intermediate state. The souls of the departed can, however, receive “solace and refreshment” through the Eucharist, prayer and almsgiving. The belief that love can reach into the afterlife, that reciprocal giving and receiving is possible, in which our affection for one another continues beyond the limits of death—this has been a fundamental conviction of Christianity throughout the ages and it remains a source of comfort today. Who would not feel the need to convey to their departed loved ones a sign of kindness, a gesture of gratitude or even a request for pardon? Now a further question arises: if “Purgatory” is simply purification through fire in the encounter with the Lord, Judge and Saviour, how can a third person intervene, even if he or she is particularly close to the other? When we ask such a question, we should recall that no man is an island, entire of itself. Our lives are involved with one another, through innumerable interactions they are linked together. No one lives alone. No one sins alone. No one is saved alone. The lives of others continually spill over into mine: in what I think, say, do and achieve. And conversely, my life spills over into that of others: for better and for worse. So my prayer for another is not something extraneous to that person, something external, not even after death. In the interconnectedness of Being, my gratitude to the other—my prayer for him—can play a small part in his purification. And for that there is no need to convert earthly time into God's time: in the communion of souls simple terrestrial time is superseded. It is never too late to touch the heart of another, nor is it ever in vain. In this way we further clarify an important element of the Christian concept of hope. Our hope is always essentially also hope for others; only thus is it truly hope for me too[40]. As Christians we should never limit ourselves to asking: how can I save myself? We should also ask: what can I do in order that others may be saved and that for them too the star of hope may rise? Then I will have done my utmost for my own personal salvation as well.

Friday, October 26, 2012


GESTURES OF HOPE
30th Sunday

What is the point in being a Christian, in following Jesus as Lord?  Today many people turn their backs on the faith of their younger years.  They question, rebel, and abandon their faith for another set of beliefs.  There are many also who look for answers to their religious longings by discovering other voices they belief will lead to enlightenment and fulfillment.

Today’s gospel (Mark 10) illustrates for us the value of a relationship with Jesus the Lord, of following Him and all throughout our lives.  This is a time in history when it is not fashionable for Catholics to stand up for the teachings and the values of Jesus, so it is great to look at Jesus through the eyes of one who experienced His power to save, the blind Bartimaeus.

Bartimaeus had multiple handicaps.  He was blind and so was physically poor.  He was a beggar and so was socially an outcast.  He was truly a man of no importance.  His only hope was a possible liberation from his situation by a man who was passing by; a man whose name he knew, but one he never before met.

When Jesus was passing by, Bartimaeus tried every beggar’s trick to attract his attention.  He shouted, addressing Jesus personally and reverently:  Jesus, Son of David, have mercy on me!  When ordered to stop, he shouted at the top of his lungs.

In the gospel of Mark, Jesus was always a busy person, always on the go.  He was in a hurry to accomplish things.  Moreover, he was surrounded by disciples, curious onlookers and needy people. They too, vied for his attention.  There were many more who wanted to speak to him, touch him, ask his blessings.  One feeble man’s voice must have drowned in the crowd of people around the Lord.

But Jesus stopped when he noticed Bartimaeus.  He was not just a beggar asking for help, not just a blind man hoping to be healed.  This time, the blind man was the center of Jesus’ world.  As they spoke to each other, Jesus restored Bartimaeus to health and social standing for He saw his faith.  From that time on, he became a follower of Jesus, the one who fulfilled his hope.

Here, we get a glimpse of the face of God in a gesture of kindness.  In Jesus, we see the God who desires to reach us in our misery, to speak to us personally, to listen to us, to restore us and make us whole again.  The miracle of healing happened but more than that, was the miracle of the gesture.  Jesus paid attention to a man who needed him most.

This is the point of being a Christian.  We proclaim a God who gives us hope by loving us personally and with great kindness.  As we experience Jesus, we too are challenged to multiply gestures of hope for others who need our kind attention and love. To be a Christian today is not about words or teachings but about actions like those of Jesus.  

THIS BLOG REJOICES WITH THE ENTIRE FILIPINO NATION IN CELEBRATING THE APPOINTMENT OF THE NEW CARDINAL, HIS EMINENCE LUIS ANTONIO G. TAGLE, ARCHBISHOP OF MANILA (shown in the photo below with his predecessor, Cardinal Gaudencio B. Rosales, DD, archbishop emeritus of Manila).


Wednesday, October 24, 2012

AFTER ST. PEDRO CALUNGSOD,
ANOTHER FILIPINO PRIDE,
ANOTHER GIFT FROM GOD!

THE NEW CARDINAL-ARCHBISHOP OF MANILA

HIS EMINENCE CARDINAL LUIS ANTONIO G. TAGLE, DD


Wednesday, October 17, 2012


TRUE GREATNESS IN THE EYES OF A SAINT
29th Sunday



What is the measure of true greatness? In the world today, there are numerous, varied responses:  Money! Control!  Skill!  Attitude!  Fame! Achievements!  Depending on who you ask and what his heart suggests, you will have an answer.

In the gospel (Mark 10), the Lord Jesus instructs his disciples to expect that the world will value greatness mainly on the basis of “who’s at the top of things”.  He is great who triumphed over the others, who beat the others, who showed the others his might.

Then He tells them to pursue another kind of greatness, one that will make people scratch their heads, shake their heads in unbelief, blow their minds off.  To be great, says Jesus, is to be the servant of all.  To be first is to be the last of all.

What better way to understand the Lord than to merely rejoice with the entire Filipino nation as we welcome our latest addition to the roster of the heroes of the faith. 

He was a mere youth, from obscure beginnings in the Visayas.  He accompanied the great St. Diego de San Vittores in his missionary forays into the jungles of Marianas, now Guam, in search of converts for Christ. He worked as a catechist while the priest performed the sacraments.  When the priest-saint was killed by enemies, he did not abandon him but instead came to his rescue.  It was this that sealed his fate and led to his own shedding of blood for his love of Christ and the Church.

Now, St. Pedro Calungsod is recognized by the universal church for the heroism of his faith and the fidelity he showed to his companion in mission.  Compared to the stature of the great missionaries, he was really just under their shadow.  But his faith proved to be so gigantic to convince the entire Church that in the arena of love, he is equal to all those who went before him in martyrdom.

Truly, greatness for God is in being a servant, priority is in being last of all.  What is the basis of this teaching of the Lord? It is none other than his very self.  “The Son of Man did not come to be served but to serve and to give his life as a ransom for many.”

Jesus tells us today not to succumb to the temptation of false greatness.  He who works silently is great.  He who labors in the shadows is precious in the eyes of God.  The Overseas Filipino Worker, the laborer in the factory, the jeepney driver, the laundry woman, the sampaguita vendor, the caregiver of an invalid – these are all images of the new saint of the Philippines.  In God’s eyes, they too are great.  We too, are great even if we are not at the top.  As long as we do things out of love and fidelity to God and the people around us, we can be so united with Christ.

Today let us thank the Lord for opening wide for us the road that leads to true greatness!  Mabuhay, St. Pedro Calungsod. 

Sunday, October 14, 2012

BISHOP MYLO HUBERT VERGARA’S FIRST PASTORAL LETTER


THE FIRST PASTORAL LETTER OF THE BISHOP OF PASIG
THE MOST REV. MYLO HUBERT C. VERGARA, DD
FOR THE YEAR OF FAITH 2012-2013



(UNIQUELY WRITTEN IN NARRATIVE, PERSONAL AND EMOTIVE STYLE AND IN TAGALOG/ FILIPINO)

PASASALAMAT, PAGPAPANIBAGO AT 

PANANALIG KAY KRISTO

“Dagdagan mo ang aming pananampalataya.” (Lukas 17:5)

Minamahal kong Sambayanan ng Diyos ng Diyosesis ng Pasig,

Kapayayapaan mula sa Poong Maykapal na nagmamahal ng lubos!

Nagdesisyon akong ipahayag and kauna-unahang sulat pastoral ko sa pagbubukas ng ating diyosesis ng “Year of Faith” na binuksan na ng ating Santo Papa, Benedikto XVI noong ika-11 ng Oktubre 2012, sampung araw na ang nakararaan. Nasabi nga niya noong nakaraang taon, na itong “Year of Faith” ay “moment of grace and commitment for an ever fuller conversion to God, to strengthen our faith in Him, and to proclaim Him with joy to the people of our time.” (Pope Benedict XVI, October 16, 2011) Mula sa mga pananalitang ito, nais kong magbahagi ng tatlong mensahe at pagninilay na maaaring maging daan ng makabuluhang pagdiriwang ng taong ito at pagtanaw sa ikasampung anibersaryo ng pagdiriwang natin ng pagkakatatag ng ating diyosesis.

Ang una ay pasasalamat. Sabi ni Santa Teresita ng Niňo Hesus: “Lahat ay biyaya.” Isang malaking biyaya na sa pagdiriwang natin ng “Year of Faith” ay napapaloob ang mga katangi-tanging pagdiriwang sa ating diyosesis.  Apat na parokya ang magdiriwang ng “jubilee year”: ika-limampung-taong anibersaryo ng Our Lady of the Holy Rosary Parish, Taguig at Santo Rosario de Pasig Parish, Rosario; ika-animnapung anibersaryo ng Sto. Tomas de Villanueva, Santolan, Pasig; at ika-apat na raan at dalawampu’t limang anibersaryo ng St. Anne Parish, Taguig.  Natatangi din na sa taong darating ay ikasandaang anibersaryo ng Pasig Catholic College at ikadalawpu’t limang anibersaryo ng dalawa pa nating parochial school, Sto. Niňo Catholic School at Bicutan Parochial School--mga maituturing nating malaking biyaya sa paghuhubog ng kaisipan, buhay moral at espirituwal ng libu-libong mag-aaral noon at magpa sa hanggang ngayon. At siyempre lahat ng mga pagdiriwang na ito ay magaganap sa ika-sampung anibersaryo ng pagkakatatag ng Diyosesis ng Pasig.  Di ko po maubos maisip na idineklara ng Santo Papa ang “Year of Faith” na naitaon sa pagdiriwang natin ng mga mahahalagang “jubilee celebration”.  Di po ba malaking biyaya ito ng Diyos sa atin!

Ang biyaya ay dapat pasalamatan.  Kaya nga lubos lubos na lamang ang ating pagpupuri at pasasalamat sa Diyos sa mga biyayang ito na kaloob sa ating sambayanan.  Naisulat nga ni San Pablo, dapat lamang: “Pasalamatan ang Diyos na Ama ni Hesukristong ating Panginoon! Pinagpala niya tayo sa kalangitan, kay Kristo, ng bawat pinagpalang espirituwal.” (Efeso 1:3) 

Ang ikalawa ay pagpapanibago.  Ipinangaral ng Santo Papa: “The Year of Faith… is a summons to an authentic and renewed conversion to the Lord, the one Saviour of the world.” (PF # 6)  Napakagandang pagkakataon ito upang seryosong magbalik-loob sa Diyos at magpanibagong-buhay kay Kristo.  Lahat po tayo ay makasalanan.  Ako po bilang inyong pastol, ang mga pari at madreng naglilingkod sa inyo, pati na rin ang mga lider-laiko sa ating mga parokya ay marupok at maraming pagkukulang.  Buong pagpapakumbabang manikluhod tayo sa Diyos at humingi ng tawad sa ating mga kasalanan tungo sa isang makatotohanang pagbabagong-buhay.  Magagawa natin ito sa tulong at awa ng Diyos na mahabagin.

Naalala ko tuloy na minsan sa aking banal na oras nang ako’y nagdarasal at nagtatanod sa harap ng Santisismo Sakramento, naitanong ko kay Hesus kung paano nga ba ako mananatiling banal at tapat sa kanya bilang pari.  Naihayag ng puso ko sa panalangin na napakahirap magpakabuti, na sana’y di na ako magkasala sa isip, salita at gawa.  Para bang binulong Niya sa akin: “Di mo kayang ikaw lang, kailangan mo ako para magbago.”  Tama nga ang panalangin ni San Ignacio ng Loyola sa Diyos: “Give me your love and grace and this is enough for me.”

Ang ikatlo ay pananalig.  Saan nga ba patutungo ang pasasalamat at pagpapanibagong-buhay natin kay Kristo kundi sa isang makabuluhang pananalig sa Kanya. Kaya nga binigyang diin ng ating Santo Papa: “Faith grows when it is lived as an experience of love received and when it is communicated as an experience of grace and joy.  It makes us fruitful, because it expands our hearts in hope and enables us to bear life-giving witness, indeed, it opens the hearts and mind of those who listen to respond to the Lord’s invitation to adhere to his word and become his disciples.”(PF # 7)  Dapat nating isabuhay ang ating pananampatataya.  Dapat tayong maging huwaran ng pananampalataya.  Nabanggit pa nga ng Santo Papa: “One thing that will be of decisive importance in this Year is retracing the history of our faith, marked as it is by the unfathomable mystery of the interweaving of holiness and sin. (PF #13) Ibig sabihin, magandang balik-tanawan at magsilbing inspirayson ang mga huwaran ng ating pananampalataya: ang Panginoong Hesukristo, ang Mahal na Birheng Maria, ang mga apostol, ang mga unang Kristiyano, ang mga martir, ang mga santo’t santa, ang mga konsegradang pari at madre, at lahat ng mga naglililinkod sa Diyos sa iba’t ibang larangan ng buhay, kasama tayong lahat na nagmamahal sa Poong Maykapal.  Mapalad nga tayo at isang malaking biyaya sa Diyos na sa araw mismong ito, na pagdiriwang din ng World Mission Sunday, ay nagaganap sa Roma ang “canonization” ng ikalawang santong Pilipino—si San Pedro Calungsod.

Naibahagi ko noong araw ng pagkakatalaga ko bilang Obispo ng Pasig na sampung taon po akong nanirahan dito mismo sa Pasig simula po ng ako’y isilang noong ika-23 ng Oktubre 1962.   Ang aking Lola Eulogia na tawag nami’y Inang at ang aking Lolo Olegario na tawag naman nami’y Amang ay nakatira sa Maybunga.  Doon sa Maybunga isinilang at lumaki ang aking inang si Eden, panganay na anak ng aking Amang at Inang. Noong nabubuhay pa ang Inang naikuwento niya ang hirap na dinananan nila noong panahon ng Hapon (World War II).  Nasaksihan nila ang mga kalalakihang sinona at sinunog ng mga Hapon, at bagamat peligroso at mahirap, nakagawa pa rin ng paraan sina Amang at Inang upang mailigtas ang buong pamilya sa pamamagitan ng pagtago sa isang “bomb shelter” o balon.  Kuwento naman ng aking nanay na si Eden—sila’y gumagawa at nagtitinda ng palayok upang mabuhay at maitaguyod ang pamilya.  Nagtutulungan silang magkakapatid noon.

Nag-aral ang aking nanay sa Paaralang Elementarya ng Pasig at Rizal High School.  Ito ang naging pundasyon niya upang mag-aral ng kolehiyo at “masteral studies” sa University of Sto. Tomas (UST).  Naging guro siya sa Paaralang Elementarya ng Pasig.  Naging miyembro ng tinatawag na “Minerva group” noong kadalagahan niya kung saan siya daw ay naging “Miss Virtue”.  Ang kanyang buhay espirituwal ay lumago sa kanyang pagsisimba sa Immaculate Conception Parish dito sa Pasig na ngayo’y ating Katedral dito sa Diyosesis ng Pasig. Sa mga panahong kami ay nasa Barrio Kapiltolyo na, nagturo din ang aking ina bilang katekista at naging aktibo sa “Legion of Mary”.  Sa St. Francis of Assisi Parish (doon po sa may Shaw Blvd.) na siya madalas nagsisimba noon kung saan ako bininyagan.  Nagkaroon nga ng isang kapilya ang parokya ng St. Francis Parish na tinawag namang Holy Family Chapel. Malapit ito sa dati naming bahay at maraming kaibigan ang aking amat’t ina na kasama nilang naglilingkod rin sa simbahan.  Naging parokya ito noong 1976 na sa kasalukuyan ang mismong simbahan ay nasa isang malaking “construction-renovation project” para bendisyunan ko, sa awa ng Diyos, sa susunod na taon na napapaloob din sa pagdiriwang natin ng “Year of Faith”.

Marahil sa nakagisnan, nasimulan, naranasan at naipunla ng aking lolo at lola, aking mga magulang, pati na rin kanilang mga mahal sa buhay na naging huwaran ng pananalig, naiguhit ng Diyos ang plano niya sa akin na maglingkod sa inyo at maging instrumento upang ipalaganap ang Mabuting Balita ni Hesus at ipangaral ang pananampalataya, katuwang ang mga pari, madre, at lider-laiko ng Diyosesis ng Pasig.

Pasasalamat, pagpapanibago at pananalig kay Kristo. Ito nawa ang isaisip, isapuso at isabuhay nating lahat sa pagdiriwang natin nitong natatanging Taon ng Pananampalataya.

Itong darating na ika-23 ng Oktubre, ipagdiriwang ko ang ikalimampu kong kaarawan.  “Golden boy” na po ako.  Isama ninyo ako sa inyong panalangin na bigyan pa po ako ng Diyos ng kalusugan sa katawan, kalooban at kaluluwa  upang makapaglingkod sa inyo ng lubos.  Harinawa’y katulad ng ating Mahal na Inang si Maria, ang Imakulada Konsepsiyon, aking palaging sambitin: “Narito ang utusan ng Panginoon, mangyari nawa sa akin ang iyong sinabi.” (Lukas 1:38) Panalangin ko na umalingawngaw sa ating salita at gawa ang masayang pagpapalaganap ng Mabuting Balita ni Hesus na magdudulot sa atin ng malalim na pananampalataya, pag-asa at pag-ibig.

Mahal ko po kayong lahat!  Mahal po tayo ng Diyos. Amen.


Lubhang Kgg. Mylo Hubert Vergara, DD
Obispo ng Diocese of Pasig
Ika-21 ng Oktubre 2012

OCTOBER 23 IS THE 50TH BIRTHDAY OF THE BISHOP.  LET US PRAY FOR HIM AND WISH HIM GOD’S LOVE AND PROTECTION.  HAPPY BIRTHDAY DEAR BISHOP, FATHER OF THE DIOCESE OF PASIG.  MABUHAY PO KAYO!

Saturday, October 13, 2012


READY FOR HEAVEN?
28th Sunday



Do you want to go to heaven?  Most Catholics will say “yes, of course!” - we want to go to that “place,” reach that point of being surrounded only by peace and bliss that do not end.  Even non-believers, while not calling it heaven, surely aspire to that most wonderful state of life where there are serenity and security that simply flow continuously.

The gospel today (Mark 10:17ff) must count as one of the most moving encounters in the life of the Lord Jesus Christ. He was pursued by a man, some say a young man, whose one burning question in mind was salvation.  How do I get to heaven?  What must I do to gain eternal life?  This man hit the nail on its head.  He found the right source person.  Jesus knew so well and wanted to guide him to his destiny.

What reply did Jesus give?  First, Jesus pointed to the commandments.  He reviewed before this man what the commandments enjoin people to do.  Honor your parents, and do not wrong your neighbor by killing, adultery, lies, deceit and others.  That was easy enough for the inquirer here, for he has been following these precepts since his youth.

Just when we think that the commandments are passé and old-fashioned, we are reminded today that this is really the first step in preparing ourselves for a life with God in eternity.  Following the commandments is not a tedious observance of freedom-limiting laws, but a gateway to a life with God. This was easy for the young man.  Is it easy for us today to follow the commandments of God?

But there was a second step Jesus outlined for his guest.  The Lord said:  sell all you have and give to the poor.  This was a big blow to the man, for he was very rich.  Following the commandments was easy because all you had to do was obey the traditions handed down to you, act according to the approving gaze of the people around.  You can do these things in conformity with the norms, not as impulse of the heart.  But to give?  That will surely hurt!

How true is the sentiment of the young man even in our own situation today.  How much easier it is to do the right thing approved by society and church, by our family and friends.  If you follow the commandments, people applaud you and congratulate you and you feel accomplished.  But to give is difficult because it will make you less. It will make you miss what’s precious to you. It will mean denying yourself some pleasures.  And yes, who will know that you gave?

Is Jesus against riches?  No! Jesus is practical.  You cannot bring anything beyond the grave.  You cannot buy fulfillment and peace.  You cannot live a self-centered life and feel accomplished.  What makes you afraid to share your blessings?

These two are twin-practices that make us ready for heaven:  the commandments and generosity.  Will we go away sad like the young man?  Or will we now go away certain that we have discovered the path to real happiness?

Friday, October 12, 2012

San Pedro Calungsod: Huwaran ng mga Kabataan



PRAY FOR US SAINT PEDRO CALUNGSOD, SECOND FILIPINO SAINT, TO BE CANONIZED THIS OCTOBER 2012 IN ROME, BY POPE BENEDICT XVI.  MABUHAY ANG PILIPINO!

Thursday, October 4, 2012


CALLED TO GOD’S FAITHFULNESS
27th Sunday



I received an unusual text message from a lady:  “Dear friends, I inform you that today my husband has left me and my children for another woman.  Please pray for our family.”  I felt sad for her and her uncertain situation.  But days later, she sent another message:  Dear friends, my husband returned home today.  He missed his family and he realized that by abandoning us, he sinned against the Lord.”  This woman must really have prayed a lot and, all her friends with her.

We know it is not easy to maintain a marriage in these very trying times. How many husbands and wives, and even children, go through a lot each day just to keep the family together.

Today the Lord is gracious in reminding us about his plan for relationships, all kinds of relationships, but specially marital, between husband and wife.  In all, God demands faithfulness.  If you truly love another, you must be willing to risk everything, to lose many things, so as to prove your love.  That is why Jesus reminds us in the gospel (Mk 10):  “A man shall leave his own father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”

It is not easy to be faithful.  It is easier to act sweet, inseparable, happy and starry-eyed.  As reality sets in, the trials begin.  A third party attracts man or woman to an extra affair.  Finances cause clashes.  Domestic irritants get in the way of sound communication.  You don’t have to be married to know that.  Its on television, in the internet and in stories people swap. It’s noticeable in the sad eyes of couples that breeze through the pressures of living with someone each day.

But this is the very reason why God demands faithfulness. In the midst of problems, if you are not faithful, you will forget to cherish and honor each other.  You will easily fall into temptation.  And it is not easy to be faithful!  God knows that, that’s why he made himself the standard of fidelity.  “What God has joined together, no human being must separate.” That’s Jesus declaring marriage a sacrament. Thus it is no merely natural or human institution or invention. In God’s eyes, marriage is based on his love and so becomes a source of grace for couples.

Today many people are indifferent to the sacraments, particularly, marriage.  They want unity of body, of emotions, of life, but not under God.  To refuse to invite God into your union is to refuse to be faithful like him.  It is God who will help couples achieve their goal, if they remain close to him. Many people have learned to trust God in their marriage and so reap the harvest of a happy relationship and a fruitful home. But still many must start believing again in the words of Jesus for every man and woman in love.

Let us pray for all married couples in difficult situations today.  Let us pray for children who are affected by these conflicts. Let us pray for all Christians, specially the youth to have a healthy vision of committed life in marriage, one that depends on God for its success and fruitfulness.

THIS WEEK, PLEASE SAY A PRAYER, MAYBE A HAIL MARY, FOR ALL THE PRIESTS OF THE DIOCESE OF PASIG. WE ARE HAVING OUR ANNUAL SPIRITUAL RETREAT IN TAGAYTAY, 8-12 OCT. WITH OUR BISHOP MYLO VERGARA AS RETREAT MASTER.  THANKS AND GOD BLESS!